WHO THE HELL AM I TO HELP PEOPLE?

I just had an awesome conversation with a fellow coach (and new friend). We planned this meeting to brainstorm and help each other where we feel stuck.

During the call, she brought something up, which I have heard before, but today it really resonated.

It was about how often we can feel inadequate and compare ourselves to others around them.

This is one of the most toxic downfalls for coaches and unfortunately happens ALL OF THE TIME.

It happens so much because we surround ourselves with other coaches, uplifting content for inspiration for our work, and we see happy faces, beach-bound bodies and ballin’ in Bali, we forget that what we are seeing is not the real world.

We forget that this social media view is of a perfectly curated world of bliss and abundance.

Even though we are experts at helping our clients navigate their challenge, let go of the past, build confidence, see their worth and ultimately help them to create a life beyond their expectations…

Some days, coaches forget that we are human. And we think there is something wrong with us to experience challenges, reminders of a painful event, self-doubt and even triggers too. 

And then we question whether we have the right to coach at all.

Then I decided to expand my view. I thought about how we ALL see perfect facebook posts, pictures painting a perfect life. Not just coaches.

We are ALL inundated with BFF selfies, vacation photos, the perfect date night, new haircut/lashes or super sassy snapshots.

So, it isn’t only coaches whose self-esteem can be put to the test, but everyone who is on Facebook, Instagram, watches tv, looks at magazines, watches movies, etc.

And today, to paraphrase my new friend, she talked about how “You only need to be a few steps ahead to help lead people to where you are.”

This is a common experience for coaches, especially when we are craving more.

So, then my view expands again, and I realize:

WE ARE ALL PRICELESS.
💖 EVERYONE, not just coaches.  
💖 We are ALL irreplaceable.  
💖 We ALL have gifts that no one else can offer to the world.

But sadly, not everyone feels confident enough to let themselves out of the “I’m not good enough” box they have put themselves in.

Is any of this stirring anything up inside?  
If so, let me invite you to consider something.

You got where you are by perseverance, working through your challenges and your pain.

And though at times, it may seem like everyone is ahead of you, there are people who are still where you were.

These people actually need you, your support, encouragement, and knowledge to help them get to their next level.

I strongly believe everyone who has a cheerleader, coach, mentor, teacher, support system and/or sounding board can achieve their potential faster and easier than those who do not.

The individuals who have this support learn to move through their day without criticizing themselves and comparing themselves to others. They do it confidently, quickly and comfortably.

🦋 Do you have anyone supporting you to get to your next level?
🦋 Have you figured out what your greatest gifts are and how to bring them to the world?
🦋 Do you have support to get over the challenges that you still haven’t gotten passed?
🦋 Would you like help with all of it?

💗 This is what I do 💗

And fortunately for you, I have made my way through more challenges than most people would have liked to. But the bright side to that is that I have tools and ideas for almost any situation!

☀️ I can help you let go of self-judgment.
☀️ I can help you quiet your inner critic. The one who says, “You aren’t good enough.”
☀️ I can help you see your value. 
☀️ I can help you navigate your way to a better version of you.

Message me so we can talk about how your life feels and what it could look like in 1 month, 3 months, 6 months to a year from now.

I DON'T WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU!!!

Something happened today with someone I care about. They were ready to move toward change. A new experience that could have been really good for them. And only a few moments later they jumped ship on the plan. 😞

It got me thinking about RESISTANCE.. Resistance shows up so often when we are going out of our comfort zone or ready to up-level in life. It has happened to the best of us and sadly most people haven't been taught how to spot it and what to do to keep moving.

You know what resistance reminds me of? 

That friend of a friend who you don't like AT ALL. You have tried and feel terrible that she bugs you so much but she brings no value to situations or conversations. She constantly reminisces about the past, like that is all there is to life - telling old stories over and over again. Stories you didn't care to hear the first time. 

Well, next time you start to experience resistance, say what you are too polite to say to that "friend of a friend"....

"No thanks, I prefer not to hang out with you anymore." 

When have you experienced resistance - the subconscious mind trying to keep you "safe" in your current circumstances even though you are ready to grow beyond them?

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION DOESN’T WORK..

..for everyone.

Nowadays, the Law of Attraction, affirmations, and sayings like “What you think about comes about.” Are common language. People utter a negative thought and they are looked at like they are smoking a cigarette while holding a baby.

For some, these positive mindsets and ways of thinking work and they are all they need to create shifts in their lives. For others, it can feel like healing is hopeless. If this sounds like you keep reading … there is hope, I swear!

You see, among other things, I am a certified advanced Law of Attraction Coach, so I am not completely dismissing the power of positive thinking and the impact of “acting as if”.

I am also realistic and understand that not everyone can begin their journey there. But with baby steps, it is possible to get there, even if it sounds impossible.

When you are in a bad emotional place, being expected to only think positive, act as if the universe is already delivering, is like asking someone who can’t swim to dive into the deep end and just know something/someone will save them.

You may not have had enough positive experiences in life to be able to trust things will work out, let alone work out to your advantage or beyond your wildest dreams.

So, we start here: I believe it is possible to need to be validated without being in victim mode and that validation can be a huge kickstart for the needed healing.

Then, I believe then, you can be led to release the pain you have been trying to let go of - this time permanently! And finally, start putting together a doable action plan to get you to a place of enjoyment and optimism for the future.

I will help you figure out how to release those old feelings, the beliefs they created, soften anxiety and depression, increasing your self-worth, your confidence and help you form a deep connection with yourself.

After that, maybe we can hang out and make our vision boards 😁

It is from that place that you will be empowered to move forward in a positive and healthy way, and we will create a doable action plan, establish your boundaries, how to honor them and uncover our core values (aka. Your Moral Compass) and why they matter so much.

Need more reason to invest in yourself and work with me?
Know this - This work is my passion and I have invested in training with the best! I have studied dozens of modalities so we can find the right fit for YOU and YOUR healing journey, no cookie-cutter coaching or healing here.

I figured since not everyone wants to vacation in the same spot, why would I expect all of my clients to connect with the same modalities, especially over and over again?

We get to explore what works best for you and you’ll have these tools forever!

If this approach is what you have wanted and not found yet, here you go! And here I am. Message me to set up a time to talk about how I can be of service to you.