😠 OH MAN, HE REALLY GOT MY GOAT 😤

I was in the company of someone last night and today who knew it all. 

🧠 I mean he knew EVERYTHING. 

He had all the answers, knew how everyone was creating their own problems and more importantly, he knew how to fix the world *insert eye roll here. 

Though I believe he is well-intentioned, I thought he was arrogant AF and could use a healthy dose of humility. 

🤬 I was practically boiling because no matter what was being said, he had some way to tell me why I was wrong and make sure it made him look like the all-mighty, all-knowing.

For a moment, I needed to pause to get a break from his heckling and within this space of silence something inside of me asked: “Why are you so bothered by his personality?”

And THIS is why I am so in love with the work that I do. 

All of the different modalities I’ve studied can really help you pause, think about feelings and go into inquiry. 

I found myself questioning why I felt so repulsed with his personality and THEN part of me considered it was because I could see aspects of myself in him. 

When I dug deeper, a few observations:

• I too have positive intentions

• I also think I’m pretty f’in smart  

• I get frustrated when people don’t listen to my suggestions or tips on how they could improve their lives

I don’t think I’m near as offensive as I have been in the past (or he was last night). 

I THINK I have learned to balance my “know-it-all” part with my “don’t be an asshole" part. 

💏 I believe it is only those closest to me who see this side of me anymore. 
Most of the time those closest to us get our best AND unfortunately our worse, don't they?
I feel bad about that and after this experience….

I’d like to dive in to see 
🌎 I am ready to evolve again. 

🙏🏻 Times like these I am so grateful for the work that I do. I appreciate all the tools available to support those of us who want to explore all aspects of ourselves. 

The Good.

The Bad.

And The Ugly. 

Another thing that is so beautiful about these tools is how they can help us uncover the not so flattering aspects of ourselves without the inner critic coming out with a vengeance or feeling like a failure. 

🙇🏼‍♂️ After all, we are all just imperfect humans, right?

🎁 I also appreciate these, what could be "negative" traits because they are a big part of my gift. 
Some of these traits are why I am able to help so many people, in so many different ways. 

So, without a desire to lose the benefits of them, I can ask:

• In what ways would changing benefit myself and others?  

• How else can I evolve so I make people feel comfortable when they speak with me?  

• How can I balance helping and sitting back to let people make their own decisions even if they are "mistakes"? 

• More importantly, how can I let go when these decisions have a direct impact on my life?

As much as I am still feeling a little agitated by the interaction, I absolutely love this opportunity to dig deeper within myself and get honest. 

🤔 Who will the new version of me be after spending a few hours with someone who rubbed me the wrong way? 

Shadow work, here I come…. 

Who wants to dig deep with me?  
PM and we can talk about the amazing things this work can do for you.

🌼 IT IS A LOT LIKE PLANTING A NEW GARDEN 🌼

I absolutely love gardens, I love the idea of gardens, I love how it feels to sit near a garden. Yet, gardening is not one of my favorite things to do.

You see, I’m not one for the most patient people, so I don’t enjoy how long it takes before you can lavish in its beauty. Now, I know some/most people are more patient than I am but humor me, this is going somewhere:

So gardening…
⏰ It seems like HOURS of digging deep in the dirt to get all the rocks and crap out. 
🚜Then, adding the compost and tilling it all to enrich the soil.
🥵Sweating to death. 
😰Waking up sore the next day
⏰Getting back to work.
🥵Sweating to death. 
💰Spending a ton on all the new plants, planting them, watering them.
😖Maybe a few don’t fair the transition.
🌾Then GAH, the weeds start growing.  
💦Watering, weeding, watering, weeding, watering, weeding…
♾But FINALLY after what feels like an eternity….

🌸🌼🌷🌺THE GARDEN IS FLOURISHING AND IT IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING! 🌺🌷🌼🌸

And what I have found is that my thoughts about gardening are a LOT of people’s unconscious thoughts about personal development. 

Let’s compare to self-development:

🚜Digging in the dirt gathering up the rocks: You getting really honest with yourself, uncovering the issues, getting clear on what is holding you back. IE. Beliefs, Mindset, Environment, Self-sabotage, etc.
Adding the compost: The healing, nourishing, rebuilding part of your process.
🥵Sweating: Yes, it is hard work to change your norm to challenge yourself and move outside of your comfort zone.
💰Buying the flowers: It can be a significant investment for a coach, program/s, books, etc.
😖The plants that don’t make it: Testing what works and what doesn’t. Failure is just feedback. It won’t all stick and that is okay.
💦Watering and weeding: Keeping up with the work, self-care, being diligent.  
🌾Weeds: Shit will come up, just like the weeds do and if you don’t deal with it, it will counteract all the work you have done.
💦Keep watering, expect you’ll have to weed again.  
😑It will take time to reap the rewards of the effort and sometimes it may not feel worth it.

🌸🌼🌷🌺 I PROMISE YOU IT IS WORTH IT. EVEN IF IT TAKES YEARS FOR YOU TO GET WHERE YOU HOPE TO BE, IT IS WORTH THE EFFORT 🌺🌷🌼🌸

Can you relate to my analogy at all? Totally cheesy 🧀 I know, but a lot of my clients say it helps keep them motivated so they don’t lose momentum when things may feel like they aren’t changing fast enough.

So, tell me, what phase are you in? 

Do you desire to be further along? Could you use some support and guidance?
This is what I do – I help people  💖

IF YOU COULD CHOOSE HOW YOU WOULD LIKE TO FEEL, ALL THE TIME, WOULD YOU CHOOSE HAPPINESS?

What if I told you there is something better?

A woman came to me a few months ago because she wasn’t happy, and she wanted to see how I could help. Her business was struggling, she lost connection with people who she cared about and she felt lost.  
A similar story that most of my clients share.

Often during an initial conversation, we explore the deep-down desires they have for life and often I hear, 

“I JUST WANT TO BE HAPPY.” 

It is as if I hear my own voice when it is said. I can feel the hurt. I can feel the despair. I can feel that if something doesn’t change, all hope of what life could become would be lost. I used to be her. 

I too used to send this “I just want to be happy.” wish to the universe ALL OF THE TIME… when I was sad, disappointed, frustrated, hurt, angry, feeling alone, confused and not enjoying life every moment. 

Something changed a while back and it has been a beautiful transformation. 

I’m not saying there was a day that I woke up and never said it again. But now it is rare, in fact, the only time it slips out is if my partner and I get into an argument and we can’t see eye to eye. We are practically opposites and our views of the world are as well. Sometimes it can be challenging. 

Plus, He is 6’3” and I’m only 5’3” 😜

Anyway, that wish of “being happy” changed for me when I realize something a while back...

BEING HAPPY ALL OF THE TIME CAN'T HAPPEN. 

Think about it, that would mean no matter what you would be happy. When someone you love is in an accident you would be happy, someone you care about gets sick and you'd still be happy. Or can you imagine if they pass on... Can you imagine not grieving that loss, not grieving because the universe granted your wish to be happy all the time? 

Aside from this being terribly uncomfortable, 
IT IS ALSO COMPLETELY IMPOSSIBLE!

As soon as I realized what is more important than being happy, I began sharing it with my clients and I love to sit back to witness the shifts as they embody the new idea as well. 

They soften, they are less hostile, more hopeful, their physiology changes and they approach life from a totally different angle.

I would love to share what created the shift for me and for my clients.... IF you are the kind of person who is willing to challenge yourself and be open to a new approach. Otherwise, it will be of no use.

WOULD YOU LIKE TO KNOW?
Message me so we can set up a time to chat. 

I could just tell you, but that would be like dropping off new Ikea furniture still in the box, with no Allen wrench or instructions.  🛠

I’d rather serve you better by discussing it relative to your life and personal situation. Then, we can determine how you will apply it to your life so you can experience the same enlightenment my clients and I have. 💖