It felt good to be bad at something!

I’m not sure when it began but I have had a tendency to give up quickly when I’m not good at something. As I connect to feelings and recall experiences, I identified a few feelings and I dug deeper and deeper to find the most core.

1. I have been too embarrassed by being bad at something

2. If I have not been good from the start, I would never be good at all

3. For people to think I am smart, respectable, or worthy I can't let them see my flaws.

4. I need to be amazing or no one will like me  

Recently, I have been addressing beliefs that may be causing some of these behaviors and maybe stopping me from reaching my feeling goals: 

“I’m not good enough”

“I have no control” 

and today was “I am helpless.”

In each of these specific sessions, I created a new, empowering belief and my favorite one came out to play today.

“I can sit in imperfection.”  

Some of you may question how this is an empowering belief and for my fellow perfectionists, you can likely feel how powerful this belief could be!  

How many projects or dreams have you set aside because you didn’t think you had what it took to do it?  

Or procrastinating when you are not meeting your own expectations ad giving up completely when it gets tough?

Why is this all coming up? Because today I picked up my tongue drum.  

Something I bought a few years ago with aspirations of sitting in the park, relaxing and playing soothing sounds (I practically smelled the patchouli).

Only that’s not how it went. 

Turns out not only am I not coordinated for dancing and sports, but I have also not been coordinated for music stuff either.  

I sucked!  

So, it sat, looking pretty collecting dust. Until today.  

Today, I felt inspired to look on YouTube to find videos to learn to play this beautiful instrument.

And YEP! Of course, there are tons of them!  

It was awesome because a few helped me see this is something I will need to practice and that just because I am not good now, doesn’t mean I never will be.  

And even if I never am, I have a new appreciation for playing just for the sake of play.  

A few times, I found myself in a rhythm. Nothing amazing, but it was a fairly steady rhythm. More times, I found myself out of rhythm and it was okay, it was still fun. And often when I closed my eyes I felt like I was in meditation.

I am confident I owe it to that new belief "I can sit in imperfection" and of the work, I have committed to regarding my feeling goals.

And I share this in case you are like me, a perfectionist, or recovering perfectionist who struggles with trying to feel worthy or good enough.  

If you are someone who holds yourself back because you feel you can't afford to fail.

I am sharing this to invite you up to inquire, what can you give yourself permission to be bad at?

What imperfection can you sit in and either be okay with?

And also can you allow yourself to invest in learning something new, or just allow it to be an opportunity to play to reach your feeling goal?

What goals do you have? 

Not just the outcome or result you are looking to experience with your goals, but what feeling are you striving to feel more of?

Do you know why that is more important than the goal itself? 

I would love to share it with you. 

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Half-assed or realistic?

I spend a TON of time in self reflection.

It is one of my favorite things actually and yesterday while reflecting, as I swam in my basic pool, just a few steps from my rented condo, not on vacation or some all inclusive resort, just my regular life, I thought about how I've never been willing to make ALL of the sacrifices my mentors told me I would "have" to be committed to make to live my "dream life". And my compromises have gotten me to EXACTLY how I want to FEEL!

You might not believe me but you don't have to give up all that you know and love to achieve your REAL goals!

As I have grown and evolved, I unintentionally created a methodology that has been perfect for me and for others like me...

The highly sensitives, indulgent, living life to enjoy it, doing what we want when we want, not willing to give up the snacks, the drinks, the people in our life.

We can have what we desire without giving up everything we have known and leaned on in the past.

It feels pretty amazing to create something so magical ♡

WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Have you been or are you at a point in your life that you are sick of things the way they are?

Have they been like this for so long and you are just tired of it?!

Maybe you are like me and this is not the first time you have felt frustrated with where you are in life?

A coach I have worked with and follow loves the phrased “Pissed and Passionate” and I think I have arrived there. And none of this is a negative as it may be coming off.

I’m happy with where I am right now. I’m living in the most beautiful place. Warm weather and sunshine. The beach is only minutes away, the pools on only steps away. I have time to invest in myself and my business and it has been showing.

AND I’m still not content with where I am. I know I could have more, be more, and be loving life even more than I currently am.

So I reflect, why? What isn’t changing even though I think I’m doing everything I can to grow and progress? Why have I felt like I am spinning my wheels?

Another friend/business strategy coach recently talked about how we really need to measure our efforts toward our goals more closely. This was inspired because she got a fit bit and learned that even though she thought she was doing what it would take to reach her fitness goals, the Fitbit showed her the facts. She was actually only putting out a fraction of the effort she thought she was which meant she was not going to reach her goal and likely become frustrated by her unrewarded efforts. Even possibly, eventually giving up on them completely.

Such an awesome insight!

So I ask, how closely are you measuring your actions towards your goals?

Then consider, do you have everything it takes to get to your goal?

And yes, energetically and spiritually you have the ability to achieve just about anything.

BUT, will you?

This is where I have been for the last few weeks. Noticing that I am trying to stretch my zone of genius to areas of business that I’m not super familiar with and honestly, ones I don’t enjoy at all. I’m trying to do it all and likely doing a lot of it half-ass.

So then I ask myself, do I want to do THIS for the next few years? To spend hours to learn something I don’t even want to do? To have to test things out and learn the hard way? Or do I want to be able to focus all of my time and energy on what I absolutely LOVE… working with my clients and creating programs to help support people?

Am I ready to allow life to become easier? To flow into abundance?

Are you ready to allow life to become easier and more enjoyable?

And when I say Abundance, I mean things like Time, Freedom, Experiences and Yes, of course, the obvious, Money 😁.

For years I wanted this, and for years it was not possible. Beliefs like “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not disciplined enough to get really successful" or “No one understands me” made me believe it was not possible. Beliefs that kept me stuck and stagnant.

And through the past year, increasing my focus on clearing core beliefs I have been able to step outside of what was once my rigid comfort zone which is helping me grow in more ways than one. It has been lifting that veil of frustration and feeling defeated.

Clearing these beliefs has allowed me to see I am worthy of support. I am worthy of success. I am worthy of experiencing this life with more joy and less struggle.

Clearing these beliefs has helped me uncover the resources I couldn’t find in the past, so I have been able to hire my own coaches. I have 3 right now. Yep, 3 different coaches! Each for their personal zone of genius so I can focus more on mine.

So I’d like to ask, when you consider how you are experiencing life, what beliefs do you think are creating your current experience?

Sometimes an easier way to come up with the answer is to imagine someone telling you the stories about their circumstances and think “What must they believe to have this experience?” or “What have they likely experienced in life to bring them to this place and what beliefs might they established because of it.”

Now imagine, to have the life you dream of, what beliefs would need to have?

And know that we can clear the negative and create the empowering ones! You aren’t stuck. You don’t have to accept feeling frustrated or unfulfilled.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d like to invite you to hop on a call with me so I can share how to the root of the limiting beliefs to weed them out like the weeds in your garden and then how to implant new empowering beliefs that will allow you to grow and flourish - in ways that you’ve only experienced in daydreams.

Life will be experienced based on the beliefs that have been ingrained in you. They aren’t usually the ones that allow you to LOVE life. Are you ready to LOVE your life?

If so, let’s talk. ♡