If you are a control addict, like my client and I...

I have a client who has been doing some really awesome work and it is paying off!

We're both Libras and we've noticed we share common traits associated with Libra and the scales of justice - there is a strong desire/need for things to need to be fair and balanced.

So when something doesn't feel fair for her. That's usually when she gets triggered, wants to exert control, and has a hard time accepting things just as they are.

Yet there is another side of her since we have been working together. She is now able to find ample proof that most often things work out in her favor.

It seems like whenever there's a jam, there's a solution that presents itself, or she creates a solution. So as her sense of security and trust increase she would like to become even more relaxed, release the need to control, and just go with the flow - trusting all things will always work themselves out.

I could relate to so much of what she shared and it was something I put my focus on for myself over the past year with impressive success (even as I am grieving the loss of my father and dealing with squatters who have taken residence in his house)!

I have desired to figure out how to embody the concept of surrender. It seems crazy that this is something to be learned and doesn’t just come naturally but either way. My client’s desire was similar to mine - to have faith that the Universe has my back and is helping me to succeed. So, I shared some of the methods I had adopted to support me and we personalized it for her.

We decided to start with something really simple - breath and mantra.

Part of a session was spent exploring what her desired feeling/s is, when or how she experienced the feeling in the past and to what degree does she believe her desire is actually possible.

From there it gave us the foundation to created a few mantra/affirmation statements that felt both uplifting and honest.

"Even though I don't have control, I know the universe always creates for me." and "Even though I can't control the situation, the universe has my back, always looks out for me, and provides me with what exactly I need."

These statements can be used in a few ways, as:

• Morning mantras to set the foundation for the day.

• Afternoon affirmations to keep her on track or

• Evening check-in to review her experiences through the day to find aspects of the day when the mantra is, in fact, a true statement that she can find proof of.

She also began to use them when she felt triggered. She would recite the statements while keeping a steady breath (6 seconds inhale, hold for a second 8-12 seconds exhale)

Some of the shorter support statements we talked about were:

"The universe is protecting me."

"I don't need to control everything."

"I can surrender and trust the universe knows what it is doing and has my best interest."

"The universe is always looking out for me, it's doing what's best for me."

Using affirmations help to activate the subconscious mind to look for examples of the statement being a fact. It is a built-in fact-checker and this can work to your advantage when you take advantage of it! It starts to show you proof and attract experiences that prove it as well.

Using affirmations also helps you become a vibrational match to the statement which attracts more of that thing into your life. We attract what we are. Like attracts like.

It has been a few weeks and so far she said is that these affirmation style mantras have helped her to slow down and calm down a ton!

She said she uses them as a 911 rescue when she gets really anxious and they help her stop panicking, she feels more grounded and safe. Even her partner noticed a shift in her behavior. And she even feels more at peace when things don't go the way she expected. Now, she is planning on putting her attention on trusting that something better is in store when things don't go as she anticipated.

I share this in case the simple process can help you as much as it has helped both of us so far. If you find yourself getting triggered, needing to be in control is there a statement or a mantra that could help you what you surrender and let go of control?

If you believe it…

Some say it doesn't matter what it is, it will work if you believe it will.

Someone may want to heal their physical body from an illness and while they have tried everything they are at a loss and finally going to try reiki. But they don’t believe reiki will work. So likely it won’t.

In another scenario, someone may believe so strongly in reiki or their practitioner, and that in itself becomes a part of the miracle.

I believe whatever it is will work if you want it, believe it can happen AND you are willing to be the version of yourself that you will become once it does.

If you don’t have all three you may not achieve what you are setting out for.

Transformation can magically appear but only to the extent that you are ready to arrive at it. If you are not willing to become the version of yourself that you will be after your transformation, it's not going to happen or it won’t last long.

So, it's up to you what you want to experience. It's up to you to be that person. But often what isn’t up to you are the subconscious beliefs that lead you away from being that version of you or believing that version is possible.

What am I talking about?

Here’s are examples:
Someone may want to have a six-figure business but they have a subconscious fear that they aren’t good enough, they aren’t worthy or they won’t be able to handle success so they keep working so hard, spinning their wheel, making progress, and then they hit a wall.

While another person may have cleared those beliefs which made their success inevitable. When they believe they can go from 1,000 a month to 10k without it needing to take time, their subconscious mind now looks for all the ways this is true, leading them from one opportunity to the next.
Effortlessly creating a six-figure business.

Beliefs fuel our reality. Some beliefs we have a choice about, most we do not and it can be difficult to uncover those on your own. Often we are too close to our own stuff to see it clearly (that’s how the subconscious wants it too)

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Would you agree that we are completely bombarded by toxins?

Physical toxicities like preservatives, chemicals, pesticides, heavy metals or EMF spectrum.

Emotional toxicities like violence, news/media, unhealthy relationships, trauma, unprocessed grief, unbalanced work life and home life.

Spiritual toxicity - Personally, I see that more as though we are spiritually deprived which is contributing to illness, disease and unhappiness, not having time to meditate, to connect with ourselves and our source/s it effects us so much.

And we also have mental toxicities like our thoughts, our beliefs, critical people around us and too much pressure to get some much done.

And while we are constantly being bombarded with toxicities, most people don't have the resources, support or access to the right tools to either protect from or release the toxicities.

And so, this is where healing every day group comes in - as a way to combat these toxicities as they're coming at you. It is not only your shield and your detox as well. This is a group healing membership program - A buffet of healing modalities to help combat the toxicities.

Some of the modalities you will experience while in the group are Reiki to help to purify energy to help to balance the chakras or energy centers to help to nourish and support your entire being. Great to boost immune system and calm the nervous system too.

And processes like Emotion Code where we actually release trapped emotions that are wreaking havoc on the body and attracting negative things and experiences into your life.

Subconscious Reprogramming | Belief clearing is an additional process. One where we can actually identify negative, limiting beliefs that are creating your current reality and dis-create it to remove it from your psyche and replace it with one that serves you.

For example the belief of "I'm not good enough" Or "I'm not worthy" could be influencing your decisions, your patterns, how you move through life. It may be creating your current reality and in this group, it can be cleared to create a new desired reality.

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