12-Week IAT Program — Heather Dempsey
Integrated Attachment Therapy · 12-Week Program

Your personalized plan
for real, lasting change.

Imagine more steadiness. More ease in your relationships. A deeper understanding of yourself and the people you love. You already know something is possible that hasn't happened yet — this is the roadmap to get there.

What could be possible if you could understand exactly why you keep ending up here — and actually change it?

Most people spend years working hard on themselves without getting to the root. That's because the patterns driving your reactions, your relationships, and your sense of self were set long before you had any say in them.

This 12-week process is designed to find those roots, shift them at the subconscious level, and give you practical tools you'll use for the rest of your life.

What makes this different

We don't just talk about your patterns — we reprogram them. Using the IAT Repatterning Method, Parts Work, Shadow Work, Clear Beliefs Method, and Somatic Processing, we work at the level where those patterns actually live: the subconscious.

Your pace, your nervous system

This plan moves at a pace your nervous system can handle. We adjust as we uncover more — not a rigid curriculum, but a responsive process built around what you actually need.

Tools that travel with you

Every technique you learn here, you'll be able to use independently — and share with the people in your life when the time feels right.

The 12-Week Journey

A structured yet flexible framework. We adjust as we uncover more.

01 Weeks 1–2
Foundation Phase
Discovery & Pattern Awareness

These sessions are about seeing how your patterns show up in your real life — where they came from, and what they're costing you.

  • Completing a guided discovery process
  • Identifying your core wounds
  • Recognizing repeating patterns in relationships
  • Noticing your protective reactions and cycles
  • Identifying early shadow themes
  • Assessing your nervous system regulation needs
Why this matters: You can't change what you can't clearly see. This phase gives us an accurate map so everything that follows is targeted — not generic.
Goal

Clarity and accurate pattern recognition. This phase builds the foundation for everything that follows.

02 Weeks 3–4
Reprogramming Phase
Core Wounds & Autosuggestion

This is where we begin shifting things at the subconscious level — not through willpower, but through a structured reprogramming process you'll learn to use on your own.

  • Clarifying your primary core wounds
  • Learning and practicing the autosuggestion process together
Once you understand this method, you'll be able to adapt it for the people in your life and implement it consistently — not just in sessions.
Goal

Begin shifting long-standing beliefs and reduce feelings of hopelessness.

03 Weeks 5–6
Regulation Phase
Emotional Processing & Trigger Support

Triggers aren't the problem — what we do in the seconds and minutes after them is. This phase gives you a structured tool to interrupt the automatic response and choose what comes next.

  • Learning a structured 6-step emotional processing tool
  • Calming triggered moments before they escalate
  • Expanding perspective in charged situations
  • Increasing emotional flexibility
  • Supporting clearer thinking before responding
We'll practice this together first. Then you'll be able to use it on your own — whenever you need it.
Goal

Create real space between trigger and response.

04 Weeks 7–8
Needs Phase
Human Needs & Meeting Them Well

So much of the resentment, disappointment, and loneliness in relationships comes from unmet needs we haven't named — or have been waiting for one person to fill in one specific way.

  • Identifying your primary human needs
  • Clarifying personal and tertiary needs
  • Understanding which needs have been going unmet
  • Creating a wide range of ways to meet those needs independently
  • Exploring how you want needs met within your relationships
  • Practicing clear, grounded ways to communicate needs
We'll create what's essentially a "buffet" of options — so you are not dependent on one person meeting one need in one specific way. This is one of the most stabilizing shifts of the entire program.
Goal

Increase stability, reduce resentment, and expand your sense of choice.

05 Weeks 9–10
Deepening Phase
Shadow Work, Communication & Boundaries

By now we'll have a clear picture of what's still carrying charge — and why. This phase is about addressing the deeper material that surfaces under stress, and strengthening how you show up in the places that matter most.

  • Exploring what is still coming up and why it carries charge
  • Addressing shadow themes that surface under stress
  • Refining how you communicate in difficult moments
  • Strengthening boundaries where needed
Goal

Reduce emotional intensity and increase self-trust in the moments that have historically been the hardest.

06 Weeks 11–12
Integration Phase
Integration & Implementation

The final phase isn't about adding more — it's about making sure what we've built actually travels into your real life and stays there.

  • Revisiting any areas that need refinement
  • Strengthening the tools that have been most effective for you
  • Clarifying what still needs attention going forward
  • Creating a realistic maintenance plan for daily life
This phase is about implementation — not new intensity. You leave with a clear picture of where you've come from, what you have now, and what comes next.
Goal

Sustainable change that fits into your real life — not a practice you abandon when things get hard.

The Tools We'll Choose From

Every tool in this program is structured, teachable, and yours to keep. Depending on what surfaces and what serves you most, we draw from this toolkit — nothing is forced, everything is purposeful.

01

Attachment Style Deep Dive

Your attachment profile mapped in full: characteristics, core wounds and limiting beliefs, boundaries, behaviors, and needs — a powerful lens for understanding your programming.

02

Autosuggestion & Belief Reprogramming

A subconscious reprogramming process for shifting core wounds and long-standing beliefs at the level where they actually live. Structured, repeatable, and shareable.

03

6-Step Emotional Processing Tool

Identify the trigger, name the emotions, surface the story, reach the core wound, equilibrate, and clarify what you actually need. Creates space between trigger and response.

04

BTEA Pattern Identification

Identify your Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions as an integrated pattern — then reprogram at any level: cognitive reframes, belief reprogramming, somatic processing, or exposure work.

05

Parts Work

Explore the different parts of yourself that hold conflicting beliefs or protective responses. A compassionate approach to understanding internal conflict and creating inner coherence.

06

Shadow Work

Identify and integrate the aspects of yourself that drive reactions under stress — understanding what's beneath the charge and why certain situations carry more weight than they should.

07

Clear Beliefs Process

A targeted method for identifying and clearing the specific limiting beliefs at the root of recurring patterns — releasing what no longer serves you at the core level.

08

Inner Child Rescue

Reconnect with and reparent the younger parts of you still carrying old wounds. One of the most profound tools for shifting deeply held beliefs about love, safety, and worth.

09

Somatic Processing

Learn to work with emotions as they live in the body — not just the mind. A grounding practice that supports regulation when cognitive tools aren't enough.

10

Needs Mapping

Identify your primary and tertiary needs, understand which are unmet, and build a diverse range of ways to meet them — so no single person carries that weight.

11

Goal & Intention Setting

Establish clear, values-aligned goals across the areas of life that matter most — so the inner work has direction and progress is measurable.

12

Enhanced Awareness Practice

Develop sharper awareness of your thoughts, language, and actions as they happen — the foundation for catching old patterns before they run the show.

What Shifts Over 12 Weeks

Not a promise of perfection — a realistic picture of what becomes possible.

Where you are now
What becomes possible
Reacting from patterns you didn't choose and can't seem to stop
Responding from steadiness — even in the moments that used to undo you
Feeling hopeless that things will actually change
Real shifts in the beliefs that have held you back the longest
Needing specific people to meet specific needs in specific ways
A diverse, rich toolkit for meeting your own needs — with more ease and less resentment
Triggers that hijack you before you can think clearly
Space between trigger and response — so you choose what happens next
Unsure how to talk about needs without things escalating
Clearer, calmer communication — especially in hard moments
Carrying the weight alone, unsure how to move forward
Tools that are yours to keep — and share when the time feels right
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Feel familiar?

Curious to see if this kind of support would feel comfortable for you?

This is truly transformational work — and it's important that you feel at ease before we begin. So let's schedule a quick chat and see how it feels. No pressure, just a conversation.

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Sessions available in-person or virtually · Payment plans available

Heather Dempsey · IAT Repatterning 2026