Connecting With Your Higher Self

When you want to listen to a particular radio station, you tune your radio to that station, tuning in to a particular frequency. Same when you want to watch a particular show on TV. It is the frequency you tune into that determines what you hear and what you see.

Our brains operate in very much the same way, except that we have two stations we are aware of that we can tune into - the ego station and the higher-self station. 

The ego station is the station that originates in the programmed mind, which ironically contains all our subconscious limiting beliefs that create our fears.

The ego station consists of our wounded self, our false self - the protected self we learned to be as we were growing up and needed to find ways to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe.

Our ego wounded self is a closed circuit - it operates on old information that we acquired as we were growing up, information that is no longer relevant or even true. It is not open to new information. It is not open to truth.

The higher-self station is the station that taps into the unlimited information from the universe - information that is beyond the programmed mind. The higher-self station taps into the Source of truth that is always here to guide us in our highest good.  It taps into the collective consciousness and all the wisdom of the universe.

How do you tune your frequency to your higher-self station?

We have all been given a "dial" that either tunes us to the low frequency of our ego station, or to the high frequency of our higher-self station. This dial is our INTENT.

One might consider that we have two intents to choose from: 

1. The intent to get love and avoid pain with some form of controlling behavior

2. The intent to learn about loving ourselves and others

The intent to have control over getting love and avoiding pain lowers our frequency and keeps us stuck in our limited mind - our ego-mind.

When we choose this intent/frequency, we are stuck thinking the thoughts - the lies - and taking the unloving actions that create fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, stress, anger, jealousy, resentment, and so on.

The ego frequency is the frequency of a victim or poorly resourced or supported individual. We are in this frequency when we needt to have control over getting love and avoiding pain.

When well resourced and emotionally healthy, at any moment, we can change our minds and choose the intent to learn - about what is in our highest good and the highest of all.

We can choose to learn about our ego-mind rather than stay stuck in it.

The moment we choose the intent to learn about love, we raise our frequency and are able to access the higher-self station. 

This is like moving out of the limitations of our personal computer and into the Internet - only better. While some of the information on the Internet is true and some is not, all of the information we receive from the higher-self station is true - it comes from the Source of Truth.

The only thing that stops us from choosing the higher-self station is our addiction to control often due to fear of not being safe.

The ego-mind wants control over our feelings, over others' feelings and actions, and over the outcome of things.

When your desire or need for feeling in control is greater than your resourced self or desire to be loving to yourself and others, and greater than your desire to live in truth, you will remain stuck in the ego station.

The ego station tells us that we can have control over things that we actually have no control over - others and outcomes. While we can have some control over our feelings with various addictions, this only leads to greater unhappiness.

Our feelings are an inner guidance system, letting us know when we are on track or off track in our thinking and behavior, so suppressing them with addictions only leads to more pain.

You will discover great joy when you choose the intent to learn how to tune into your higher-self station. If you’d like to see what support doing that looks like, I’m here.

What a shitty thing to say...

I was only about 10 minutes into an event I was hosting and I heard: 
“Your mom must be so embarrassed that she brought her friend to see how mediocre you are.”

Truth be told, from the moment the first guest arrived I felt nervous and when an extra 5 unexpected guests arrived after I began, I got really rattled.

Do you know who said the nasty comment about my mom being embarrassed?

Me - It was inside MY own head 🙄

Why am I telling you this when I'm a mindset coach?

Why am I telling you this vulnerable thought that ran through my head?

I'm sharing this because I want you to know it's completely normal.
Even though mindset work, beliefs, and helping my clients increase their confidence and courage is what I specialize in, it doesn't mean that I don’t have shitty thoughts of my own. In fact, it is why I am so passionate about helping others who have the same. 

We all do on some level and the difference is knowing how to deal with it.

So how did I deal with it?
I listened and I said, “Um, okay, that's pretty harsh!”

And THEN I asked:
“While that could be true, what else could be true?”

Other Possible Truths:

My mom's friend could be sitting there thinking, “Wow! Heather had five extra people show up - She's really in demand”
She could be thinking “Wow! I’m lucky that I get to be a part of this.”
And she could have been thinking about her day, how tired she was, or about nothing at all.

People could have also noticed how rattled I was and thought how brave I was for continuing on. They could have been thinking they are grateful to have this space where vulnerability and real is welcome.

I was disconnected from what I intended to provide for my group.
I wasn't centered. I wasn't grounded, and I wasn't keeping my intention.

I let myself and my ego become my focus. From those truths, I had a choice to make.
To let that voice get the best of me or to shift.

I brought myself back and looked at every single attendee, and thought, I'm here to serve them - breathe and be a space for them to facilitate their own healing. However, that is going to happen for them.”

So looking for the other truths in the situation allowed me to pull myself back together, carry on and facilitate a fantastic event.

So I transparently share to let you know you're not alone. Even the top performers that I work with share that their dark inner voices try to keep them quiet, small, and feeling like they aren’t good enough.

Together we not only quiet that voice, but we also turn it into a superpower.

If you have a really nasty inner critic, like mine, this was to share a really simple way for you to help reduce its impact so you can see yourself for how amazing and brave you truly are...

If you would like to experience an even deeper, more rapid transformation to increase your confidence, your courage, and your ability to see how much more is possible, let’s connect and see what it could be like to work together.

4 Ways To Put An End To Procrastination

4 Ways to Put and end to your Procrastination  

We’ve all done it at some time or other. I’m totally guilty of putting off exercise until “tomorrow”; some continually delay finishing that project or starting that business (this one may have served me actually, lol).

Anyway, procrastination is often a huge cause of self-judgments and can literally stop you in your tracks from achieving all that you desire.  Ironically, it is often caused to protect you (if that doesn’t make sense, contact me - we need to talk!)

Here are 4 strategies we can play with to see if you can tame the beast.

Do it now

Hold your breath and jump right in! Putting things off until the last minute is a bad habit and like all habits is ingrained in our subconscious mind and hard to break. It feels like the normal thing to do and we simply continue along our path. To complete a task immediately may even feel strange or like a forced action. Keep practicing - it could become your norm. And even if not, at least things will likely get a lot better.

Take baby steps

Sometimes we procrastinate because the task may be intimidating to us. Perhaps we have no possible inkling on where to start. In these cases, it is quite fine to take it one tiny little step at a time and even to ask someone to hold your hand while you take those steps. Say you are preparing a business plan and for the 5th time this week, you’ve turned on the PC and looked at the blank screen. Or you’ve just remembered you need to do some more research before you begin…you’re still not ready. It is probably a bigger project than how you have been breaking it down.  Try to break down the project into even smaller pieces and tackle each bit separately. Make each task an individual project and after completion of each one, celebrate and acknowledge your achievement.

Forget it

Why force the issue? If you have been ‘dragging your feet on something for a very long time, it may all be for the best. Maybe something somewhere is trying to tell you something. That something is your intuition and it is usually right! Think about something that you have been putting off again and again and again. What are the reasons that you need to complete this task in the first place? Does someone want you to do this? What is THEIR agenda? What are YOUR reasons for this lengthy delay? I find it amazing that 99% of the time I put off doing something, I am thankful that I did!  Disregarding a project after a long period of procrastination is however usually a last resort.  I suggest deeper questioning before opting for this since it may also be the subconscious trying to keep you away from growth.

Support team

Do you put off tasks because you feel that they are too big and complex for you to handle alone? Or because you need assistance? Be honest with yourself. “No man is an island”. Ask for help! There are many resources out there that can provide you with all you need to carry out your job. If you’re a solo-professional and you put off answering emails, then don’t answer them yourself. Hire an assistant, find some college students that want experience, get a family member to help. Procrastinating on life changing activities could be as a result of fear of the unknown. Get a mastermind group together, find a mentor, join a support group. You don’t have to do it all by yourself. Just ensure that to kick this habit; you do what feels good to you in whatever method you choose. You’ll surely postpone procrastination for a very long time.