12-Week Personalized IAT Plan — Sarah
Integrated Attachment Therapy · 12-Week Program

Your personalized plan
for real, lasting change.

for Sarah

A guided, personalized process built around your patterns, your story, and the life waiting on the other side. This plan moves at a pace your nervous system can handle. We adjust as we uncover more.

What You've Shared

This plan is built around exactly these patterns — not a generic program.

🔗  Disconnection

Difficulty making meaningful connections with others — loneliness underneath the surface.

🍷  Drinking & Behavior

Using alcohol socially, which escalates to louder, less filtered behavior that you later regret.

💰  Financial Victim Cycle

Repeating patterns around finances — feeling stuck, hopeless, and unsure how to get out.

⚡  Reactivity

Reactive moments — like the neighbor conflict — that feel out of proportion to the situation.

🤝  Networking & Control

Pushing too hard in business settings, making people uncomfortable. A need to control outcomes.

🌿  Body & Self-Care

Not exercising, comfort eating, gaining weight — the body is carrying what the mind hasn't processed.

A structured yet flexible framework.

We adjust as we uncover more — not a rigid curriculum, but a responsive process built around what you actually need.

01 Weeks 1–2
Foundation Phase
Discovery & Pattern Awareness

You've described patterns that feel disconnected and out of control — drinking that escalates, reactions that overshoot, financial cycles that repeat. Before we can shift any of this, we need to see it clearly. These first sessions map the terrain: where the patterns came from, what wounds they protect, and what your nervous system is doing when they run.

  • Completing a guided discovery process
  • Identifying your core wounds around connection, control, and safety
  • Recognizing repeating patterns — drinking, finances, reactivity, isolation
  • Noticing protective reactions and emotional cycles
  • Identifying early shadow themes
  • Assessing your nervous system regulation needs
Goal

Clarity and accurate pattern recognition. This phase builds the foundation for everything that follows.

02 Weeks 3–4
Reprogramming Phase
Core Wounds & Autosuggestion

This is where we begin shifting things at the subconscious level — not through willpower, but through a structured reprogramming process you'll learn to use on your own. The loneliness, the victim cycles with money, the reaching for alcohol to feel more comfortable in your skin — these aren't character flaws. They're programs. And programs can be rewritten.

Primary wounds we'll likely be working with:
I am not enough · I am disconnected · I am unsafe / unsupported · I am unlovable
  • Clarifying your primary core wounds
  • Learning and practicing the autosuggestion process together
  • Understanding why these patterns have felt impossible to change
Goal

Begin shifting long-standing beliefs and reduce feelings of hopelessness and loneliness.

03 Weeks 5–6
Regulation Phase
Emotional Processing & Trigger Support

The drinking escalates. The reaction with your neighbor happened. The networking overshooting. These aren't failures of character — they're triggers that ran faster than you could catch them. This phase gives you a concrete 6-step tool to interrupt that automatic response before it finishes running.

  • Learning a structured 6-step emotional processing tool
  • Calming triggered moments before they escalate
  • Expanding perspective in charged situations
  • Increasing emotional flexibility
  • Supporting clearer thinking before responding
Goal

Create real space between trigger and response — so you choose what comes next.

04 Weeks 7–8
Needs Phase
Human Needs & Meeting Them Well

So much of what you're describing — the loneliness, the drinking to feel comfortable, the overreaching in networking — comes from needs that aren't being met and haven't had a wide enough range of ways to get met. We'll create what's essentially a "buffet" of options so you're not dependent on one person or situation to fill them.

  • Identifying your primary human needs
  • Clarifying personal and tertiary needs
  • Understanding which needs have been going unmet
  • Creating a wide range of ways to meet those needs independently
  • Practicing clear, grounded ways to communicate needs
Goal

Increase stability, reduce resentment, and expand your sense of choice.

05 Weeks 9–10
Deepening Phase
Shadow Work, Communication & Boundaries

By now we'll have a clear picture of what's still carrying charge — and why. This phase addresses the deeper material that surfaces under stress: the shadow behaviors that show up when you're triggered, the ways you communicate when you're in pain, and where your boundaries need strengthening.

  • Exploring shadow themes: the crude, reactive parts that show up under pressure
  • Understanding why control feels necessary — and what lives underneath it
  • Refining how you communicate in difficult moments
  • Strengthening boundaries where needed
  • Exploring the financial victim cycle and what it's protecting
Goal

Reduce emotional intensity and increase self-trust in the moments that have historically been the hardest.

06 Weeks 11–12
Integration Phase
Integration & Implementation

The final phase isn't about adding more — it's about making sure what we've built actually travels into your real life and stays there. You'll leave with a clear picture of where you started, what's shifted, and what comes next.

This phase is about implementation — not new intensity. You leave with a clear picture of where you've come from, what you have now, and what comes next.
  • Revisiting any areas that need refinement
  • Strengthening the tools that have worked best for you
  • Creating a realistic maintenance plan for daily life
  • Evaluating nervous system regulation habits
  • Exit plan and next steps
Goal

Sustainable change that fits into your real life — not something you abandon when things get hard.

The Tools We'll Choose From

Every tool in this program is structured, teachable, and yours to keep. Depending on what surfaces and what serves you most, we draw from this toolkit — nothing is forced, everything is purposeful.

01

Attachment Style Deep Dive

Your profile mapped in full: core wounds, limiting beliefs, boundaries, behaviors, and needs.

02

Autosuggestion & Belief Reprogramming

Shifts core wounds at the subconscious level. Structured, repeatable, and shareable.

03

6-Step Emotional Processing Tool

Trigger → emotions → story → core wound → equilibrate → clarify what you need.

04

BTEA Pattern Identification

Map your Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions — then reprogram at any level.

05

Parts Work

Explore conflicting internal parts with compassion — understanding and creating inner coherence.

06

Shadow Work

Identify what drives reactions under stress — understanding the charge and why it's there.

07

Clear Beliefs Process

A targeted method for clearing limiting beliefs at the root of recurring patterns.

08

Inner Child Rescue

Reconnect with and reparent the younger parts still carrying old wounds around love and worth.

09

Somatic Processing

Work with emotions as they live in the body — grounding when cognitive tools aren't enough.

10

Needs Mapping

Identify unmet needs and build diverse ways to meet them — so no one person carries all the weight.

11

Goal & Intention Setting

Establish clear, values-aligned goals so the inner work has direction and progress is measurable.

12

Enhanced Awareness Practice

Sharpen awareness of thoughts, language, and actions — catching old patterns before they run.

Not a promise of perfection —
a realistic picture of what becomes possible.

Where you are now
What becomes possible
Reaching for alcohol when social situations feel unsafe
Genuine ease with people — without needing a buffer
Reactive moments that overshoot the situation
Space between trigger and response — real choice
Repeating financial victim cycles, feeling helpless
A different story about money — and the tools to write it
Loneliness and difficulty connecting deeply
Capacity for real intimacy and meaningful connection
Body as last priority — weight, no exercise, exhaustion
Reconnection to yourself as something worth caring for
Control as a survival strategy
Steadiness that doesn't require controlling outcomes

Let's Connect

Feel familiar?

Curious to see if this kind of support would feel comfortable for you? This is truly transformational work — and it's important that you feel at ease before we begin.

So let's schedule a quick chat and see how it feels.
No pressure, just a conversation.

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Sessions available in-person or virtually · Payment plans available

Heather Dempsey · IAT Repatterning 2026